Did you ever challenge your comfort zones really, meaning did you ever do something you feared doing and therefore had usually avoided? It could be to speak in public, sell a product for example on the phone, take responsibility that you had not previously taken etc.

Why challenge your comfort zones in the first place?

The personal benefits from challenging your comfort zones include …

• Spiritual development: You will be more aware and present. More focused on things and intensively involved, thus not having space for the usual internal discussions of the ego.

• Development of your faith in your ability to succeed in whatever endeavor / business

• Elimination of unnecessary social fear

• Elimination of fear of not having the right to speak

• Learning the discipline of controlling the communication in your favor. How to win your opponents or rather how to make your opponents become your friends

• Learning to be assertive meaning not aggressive in your way of communicating. If not you will become a bad sales person

Despite of having a Master of Science degree in engineering I decided to challenge my comfort zones, by going into sales, inspired by a book.

I took this step due to having been touched deeply by an old classic book by an American master in sales, Frank Bettger, focusing on moral values at the heart of a good sale.

I bought the book in a used books store and it definitely challenged my comfort zones. Many famous people have tried the same job as I. I tried it within several different markets.

I highly recommend challenging your comfort zone. But remember to maintain your dignity instead of becoming an irritating sales person.

Be convinced of the value of your product or don’t sell it! When being convinced of the products values, it might be sale in the sense of convincing someone of your opinion on a certain matter, remember to maintain the moral values:

• Honesty (never ever lie)

• Professionalism (know the product in order to give the best service)

• Be presentable (don’t look like a miserable son of nowhere, show you have dignity, even if your parents left you in the gutter and you grew up in a house of “sweet painted ladies”,

• Never say no but modify their opinion

• Respect the other person

• Know the clients needs

• Focus on the humane values, not on business (life is not just cold business, as opposed to the western “advanced” idea of business). Try the western approach in any other culture and you will not be welcome but be seen as the egoistic parasite without respect, that you appear to be.

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Most people often make themselves slaves to other people and do what they believe will make them acceptable in the eyes of the others.

It is a normal phenomenon but not good in a modern society without any holy structure but only the egos endless fight with other egos. In old primitive societies at least the wise people were respected more and they got the role of teaching the young ones.

Today old people are almost despised and spit on due to the focus being on the young and “beautiful”. Thereby a lot of potential wisdom and insight is lost and the crazy thing is that many older people have become hypnotized into believing that they don’t know anything and that they have to accept being of less importance.

To provoce the traditional way of thinking I want to add that often an older person should choose to benefit from becoming humble instead of striving to maintain the egoic way of thinking as usual. So to be fair as an old person doesn’t mean to submit oneself, neither does it mean to manifest oneself at the cost of others in order to win fights of being right.

Likewise I think that often the love based wisdom is seen in innocent and still pure young ones who have maintained their good intentions and belief in deeper ideals. Usually even promising candidates of fairness, fall into decay when having been brainwashed for too long by society and finally become empty monkeys repeating what they have heard and doing the same mistakes, in order to win a mainstream kind of success (while not wanting to insult monkeys who are usually much more dignified, at least when being in their natural element).

Let’s just say that the maturity of wisdom doesn’t know age. It is an insight coming directly from God. It is the fairness of true love.

So I want to emphatize that in many cases, yes the young ones might be more spiritually wise, while not having lost their soul and positive outlook to negativity, often caused by other people which in return have allowed themselves to be direct products of society without ever questioning it to be right.

Well there is nothing right or wrong and I don’t cast judgments but only wish to point in the right direction and spare the visitors of this website of some despair and selfdestruction; the usual result of loosing hope or getting depressed from the monotonous life of a traditional normal family, depleted of spirituality, meaning the light of God and instead full of commercialism and empty proud scientific postulates.

The vital error is that people identify themselves and their role according to society’s norms and according to the coincidental controling people that surely will come their way in life.

The solution is to seek a deeper and tested truth and likely see the truth from 100 angles in order to understand it and not be driven down a wrong path. Remember that eralier geniuses tested their teories by viewing them from many angles. This is the reason, I believe, why they deserve being called geniuses, because they didn’t just follow their ego but questioned being right.

So in todays world without the old holy structures and hierachies according to insight, we need to apply some techniques in order to not become victims and maintain the holiness within our soul. Not that I think hierachies are good in themselves. It was merely just a point of reference for the situation of today.

First when being attempted controlled by some person, ask yourself: “Is it control or just an attempt of giving advice? If it is clearly control then is he/she more important than me in a basic sense, not according to titles?”

If the answer is that the person wants to control you then I say to you: Don’t try to fight it by becoming rude and personal because it will make you equally guilty or worse.

Instead show in a direct way that he / she doesn’t have to decide over you. If we talk about a working situation it get’s more complicated. Its important in that situation to never directly refuse the suggestions of the boss or middle leader.

Instead accept the suggestions with a yes and then a humble, polite suggestion as to go in another (modified) direction. Rest assured that you will receive respect that way. Perhaps not by some overly egoistic person who doesn’t respect you before you crawl and agree. But in the case of a more open person it is the way around the ego. Never directly insult an ego. It only leads to war.

The ego will only minimize itself, meaning come to reason, IF it wants to. SUch as a smoker only wanting to even consider quitting to smoke if not being pushed and restricted. Its because smoking is a false illusion of freedom and has become integrated with good things in life of which freedom is a main ingredient.

The essence is to never fall into the trap of feeling obliged to become a slave of another one. Yes if you believe in the modern society and its structure then just continue or you will probably just use my advice to manipulate even more.

I talk to those who have a good intention and I wish them to become free of the illusory bonds that society has taught us to have and which theory is being exploited to the maximum by people with egoistic and even evil intentions.

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Requirements as to how things should be, ought to be or are expected to fall out is a big source of frustrations and pain. Why?

Since when requiring things to go as one wishes, one will easily become stressed and dissapointed if they don’t turn out as expected. From that point it could lead to being easily affected by other small imperfections of life, apart from not having gained what one had hoped for. Perhaps it could in some cases lead to becoming even aggressive.

In Asian philosophy, as explained by Deepak Chopra, this is described as the law of no expectancy and as one of the basic criteria of success.

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I will now tell you the simple formula / holistic cure that will bring you peace, happiness and success in your life and for the people around you.

I actually took it from a letter that I wrote as a response to some questions from a client and slightly formatted it. It consists of 3 important points of which the first one is a means to achieve the second and the second is an obligation for achieving the third point.

• Appreciate what you have now (for example by comparing with what could have been if you had not taken care and been responsible). If you feel you have neglected yourself and perhaps your family, then appreciate the insight and motivation to change it. Know that YOU have the power to change it. Appreciate this freedom from ” coincidental ” external influences: The typical belief.
• Accept the Now meaning you realize that only the Now exists and that the past and future are illusions. The past are subjectively interpret memories and the negativity of the past lives inside of you because you like all other people allowed your true spiritual self to wrongly identify itself with your thoughts and memories, including those of pain. The future only is some projection of worries or thoughts of how it might be.

  It is an illusion because its only invented by the mind. Only the now /the present exists. Always it was only the now that existed and always it will be.

  The connection with God is achieved by being aware and present in the moment and thereby defeat the illusions of the past and future.

  God resides in the heart because the heart being free of egoism is the door to freedom and connection with god: Our unlimited source of creativity, happiness, intelligence and love which is the universal language and our true element.

  People feel pain when they are afraid of not having love (no acceptance, no fame, no relations, no success (which is another measure of being accepted). Success is frequently and wrongly being confused with the symbol of success (money, airplanes, cars real estate, titles, women, prestige, fame etc).

  However true success is to accept the now and appreciate life as is, not only the symbols that are empty and don’t contain true essential values. They are generally accepted symbols of objects which people  identify with and shape their identity, personality and feeling of self from.

  True success consists of: Love, peace (inside and outside: Not hate others or yourself which are objects that weaken people and your true self if you believe in enemies and external – as well as internal threats from ones own illusory ego), happiness, freedom (which also means not to share the same suffering stories of other people and copy their mistakes) and creativity used to create something useful.

  True success is easy and doesn’t hurt. It’s not working like a crazy to survive, constantly and only motivated by the fear from not making it.

  True success is based on intelligence and fast results, which come from freeing the mind of pain and illusions.

• Live in the now. To be free requires to accept and live in the now. Its is either a fast or gradual process.

To help yourself accepting the now it is important to forgive yourself and others and accept yourself instead of having the so common automatic reoccurring feeling of guilt: Guilt from not living up to some self created utopia of perfection, formed in exchange with the surroundings and according to what one believes is expected from others.

In order to take a deep decision to accept and forgive yourself ask yourself honestly if you are guilty, if you have the right to happiness, if you deserve happiness, if you are free and deserve to be free, if you are responsible to even your parents life.

Ask and ask like Socrates. Then the answers will come and settle inside of you and become subconscious. You will start creating a new subconsciousness. A good technique are the confirming sentences that you can say to yourself in the morning or evening just before sleeping. “I am ….(innocent, good enough, fair, responsible, worth loving, successful etc.)

You need to free yourself from the clinging to self inflicted pain and guilt (its an illusion inherited in the ego) its a negative energy (by Eckhart Tolle called the pain body /part of the ego) that seeks it’s likeness (it seeks similar negative energy. Its like a parasite : Its the ego which your true self behind everything (connected and coming from God) has confused itself with (identified itself with).

The illusion of the ego (including the negative which is the pain body) is kept alive because this negative energy (in the form of some sad life story) wants to become bigger to survive because the ego is built on hostility and fear and therefore defends itself from being eliminated. It sees the outside as possible threats. Instead the true self sees the world as one and all coming from God (despite many people are blind and act in an evil way to defend some theories and the illusion of their egos.

In fact psychology supports this theory because it says that 90 % or more of the obstacles to success are self inflicted.

Also egos attract egos so people who are blind are usually attracted by even bigger egos who are even more blind and who might even think they own the truth.

Don’t worry if you think you are not disciplined enough to accomplish what I described.

I used to feel like a lazy person but learned this was not true. I was in fact perfectionistic and trying to live up to too high ideals which however I refrained from pursuing. Why? Simply because just the mere thought of what should be accomplished took away my motivation.

Basically I didn’t see any meaning in pursuing all the traditional criteria of success because I lacked the most important basic ingredient of life: love. Part wise due to the inability of others to give this vital thing, part wise due to not having learned to rest in a bigger and sure love, the love of God.

Part of my suffering was caused from moving away from my known environment as a child, aged 10.

I grew up in the harsh and beautiful arctic nature among “primitive”/native people, with a normal temperature of -25-35 C. Since then it was a long fight or challenge to compensate for my loss from my parents decision to go to Europe.

Another lack was that I never knew any of my grandfathers (who died before I had a change to know them).

Despite of the apparent advantages of moving to the warmer northern Europe, I was more happy where I grew up.

Such a change requires even more nurture or a deep insight and liberation from measuring ones worth according to the usual acceptance and care received from ones circle of people, where one grows up.

However I liberated myself by transforming the pain from the lack of love and challenges of lacking self esteem, due to being measured by a strange culture: A strange western culture with all its intrinsic dysfunctionalties, judgments and hostility towards other ways of thinking.

I needed to learn to accept and not identify myself according to others ignorant treatment.

Today I have rebuilt myself and know the formula for doing so.

I managed to focus enough on the important things and accept being a complete failure according to the “experts” on how people should be (including authorities). Never the less I myself was the toughest judge of all.

Thats how I got wise: Acceptance and appreciation.

As I learned the power of acceptance I also realized that I had more than one big gift with which to contribute to the world. Applying and manifesting those gifts was however strongly held back by the row of diseases I suffered from and for which I had to find a personalized natural cure.

Believe me I had many ups and downs but accepting and being loyal to basic values despite of hardship, is the essential thing. The pain from not feeling adequate according to the ideals of the hostile egoic surroundings, I used as a door to a higher understanding and thus liberation.

The holistic cure and transformation took me quite some years but as long time as I needed. Everything is perfect as is: Don’t even try to define what is perfect and what is not. 

I will say that accepting and appreciating, being humble and loving God /our essence is to be perfect (I don’t speak about any egoic religion here, but God as free from personal egoic speculations). Not living according to that, no matter how perfect one seems to be externally, and according to modern measures of success, is a complete personal failure. However like Judas Iscariot served a purpose also those individuals serve some bigger purpose, from a universal perspective.

The failure might, if ever, just be realized shortly before death or in the moment of death. I like Eckhart Tolle had got this insight by being observant.

I think it is wise to value life and do ones best. I would not like to be Stalin. Yet Stalin is an expression of possible weaknesses that we share.

I want to say that many of the things I write are based on my basic honesty and loyalty to the truth, God and the principles of God (It tickled in my fingers to just write “love” as the overall principle of God: If we according to the bible are made in the image of God then shouldn’t our ability to love be a predominant part / principle of God, though God is without limits?). So I speak from the heart and with the wisdom of the heart (not the silly heart of affection which is the opposite of wise).

I am not perfect and some times I start doing stupid old habits of weakness but I have become better at realizing it and avoiding those automatic habits.

Also one important thing: To be truly strong is to be able to accept yourself after having done mistakes and then continue being loyal to the basic values: Love, honesty, fairness.

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Candida Cure or not? So is a Candida cure necessary in your case?

Causes of Candida

The predominant cause of Candida overgrowth is thought to be the use of antibiotics. Due to being broad spectered, antibiotics destroy all the good flora in your intestines causing an environment where Candida and other pathogens and parasites can take over.

Other health problems that can be related to Candida overgrowth are fibromyalgia, insomnia, irritable bowel syndrome, leaky gut syndrome, chronic fatigue, adrenal fatigue, anxiety, depression, extreme food allergies and allergies or sensitivities to chemicals and molds, etc.

Other causes of Candida, than antibiotics, include steroid drugs and other drugs that suppress the immune system, eating high levels of sugar and refined carbohydrates such as white bread and pastas, birth control pills, stress and depleted adrenal glands, heavy metal poisoning, prolonged exposure to environmental molds and a poor functioning immune system.

Candida Symptoms

It may seem incredible, but the sugar cravings at the end of a meal is often a sign of Candida that, having become a fungus, feeds on simple carbohydrates. Therefore, if it does not receive enough food, begins to die, producing various toxins that enter the bloodstream, acting on the CNS (Central Nervous System) by stimulating the patient to eat something sweet. Other symptoms are …

Chronic sinusitis

Chronic fatigue

Unrefreshed sleep

Sore throat

Frequent urination

White coated tongue

Headaches

Inability to concentrate

Short term memory loss

Visual blurring and sensitivity to light

Painful joints and muscle aches

Tightness in the neck and shoulders

Irregular heartbeat

Shortness of breath

Can’t tolerate the cold or feel cold all the time

Depression, anxiety and panic attacks

Alcohol intolerance

Constipation

Diarrhea

Painful gas and abdominal bloating

Irritable bowel

Anemia

Low sex drive

Dizziness

Canker sores

Low grade fever or low body temperature

Brain fog

Muscle weakness

Restless leg syndrome

Difficulty swallowing

Recurrent yeast infections

Ringing in the ears

Multiple food allergies and other allergies

Chemical sensitivities

Sensitivity to noise

Simple test to see if you have candida overgrowth:

First thing in the morning before you put anything in your mouth fill a clear glass with water. Get some saliva built up in your mouth and then spit it into the glass of water. Check the result after two to three minutes and then every 15 minutes. See whether your saliva is cloudy or clear. If you have a Candida yeast infection, the saliva will develop strings that go into the water or the cloudy saliva will sink to the bottom of the glass. If you are free of Candida there will be no strings, the water is clear and the saliva still floats after at least one hour. The more cloudiness and strings there is and the faster it develops, the greater the overgrowth of Candida Albicans.

Candida Cure

First of all you need to know that parasites almost always exist along with Candida. The same things that destroy the flora of your gut so that Candida can take over, also creates a perfect environment for parasite infestation. It is important to rid yourself of both Candida and parasites. Luckily some of the remedies for parasites also work well in killing Candida.

It might be helpful to begin with a colon cleanse. See the Colon Cleansing Web page.

There are four steps you need to follow:

• Starve candida through diet
• Kill candida using antifungals
• Rebuild intestinal flora and restore intestinal health
• Boost your immune system

Starve Candida Through Diet

Foods to be avoided because they help the spread of the parasite:

• yogurt, yeast,
• products made with wheat flour (bread, pizza, crackers, cakes, cookies, etc..)
• milk, dairy products, soy milk, almond milk, rice milk, etc..
• ice cream, desserts and sweets of all kinds,
• canned or otherwise preserved,
• juices, canned fruit or canned,
• cooked tomatoes.

It is very important to maintain a diet rich in fruits and raw vegetables.

It may be useful to take a half cup of warm water with a pinch of baking soda about an hour after eating, tends to reduce the acidity of the intestinal Candida proliferates at his pleasure.

These rules must be followed until the infection is completely eradicated.

A special high protein and fat diet:

This diet may seem unusual to you but it will help you significantly. The diet is basically a high fat and protein diet with only small amounts of carbs, and then, only complex carbs.

First, eat plenty of meats (beef, chicken, pork, fish — pretty much all animal meats) as well as organ meats and eggs as your best source of protein. Protein drinks and soy products are poor substitutes. Soy is especially not beneficial and should be avoided.

Eat plenty of healthy fats — extra virgin coconut oil, organic butter, extra virgin olive oil, lard, cod liver oil, fish oil.

As for carbs your main source should be vegetables. Eat all your vegetables steamed or raw whenever possible. Don’t drink juice containing beets or carrots as they are high in sugar. Eat very little fruit and avoid high sugar fruits such as bananas and grapes. The best fruits are apples, berries and grapefruits.

Avoid grains as much as possible. Good grain choices would be sprouted grain products such as Ezekiel Bread, millet, quinoa, brown rice (rice cakes) and oatmeal (no sugar). Also you can eat seeds and nuts but you should soak them first to make them more easily digestible. Soak nuts and seeds overnight then pat them dry in the morning with a paper towel to be eaten throughout the day.

What to drink — Drink plenty of filtered/purified water or herbal teas. Green drinks can be good as your body can easily absorb the nutrients. I would suggest barley grass to start with. I was very sick with candida when I first tried barley grass. It helped a lot in making me feel better almost immediately. If you don’t like green drinks you can take a chlorophyl supplement that is also excellent. (By the way I like to throw in a raw egg with my green drink. Raw eggs are very healthy and the chance of getting salmonella is very low.)

You can also drink broths, mineral water, lemonade or ice teas with stevia to sweeten them and decaffeinated coffee that uses the Swiss water process and not chemical processes.

Finally, a mineral drink that I think you will find very beneficial. Take a glass of filtered water, squeeze in half a lemon and then 1/4 teaspoon of Celtic sea salt. The lemons have essential minerals and sea salt has 84 minerals making this an excellent electrolyte drink. Drink throughout the day up to six times. Make sure you drink three of them with your meals. If you need to, sweeten the drink with stevia.

Stay away from all refined, processed and canned foods. Eat only natural foods. I call it shopping around the outside of the store — meat, fresh vegetables and fruits, eggs, etc. Also, avoid all artificial sugars such as aspartame and sucralose

The number one rule in this diet is absolutely no sugar. You can’t even drink fruit juices because of their high sugar content. One exception to drinking juice is in case of a panic attack or sudden drop in blood sugar then it is advisable to take some fruit juice diluted with water to get your blood sugar back to normal. Also avoid all starchy foods such as white bread, pastas and potato chips.

This diet may seem strange, but it works. Candida loves sugar, starches and refined foods. This diet should make you start to feel better in a short time. If you need to, you can change to this diet in stages to make it easier for you. But the sooner you are on this diet the sooner you can get better. You will have withdrawal symptoms and you will have cravings. Do your best to stick with the diet and you will be rewarded in the long run.

Kill Candida Using Antifungals

Once you get your diet under control then you can begin to kill off the candida.

Candida has the ability to adapt to antifungals if used too long — about seven days or more. So it is recommended that you rotate antifungals every four days to keep their effectiveness. You should only use one or two antifungals at a time as more can be too much a burden on your body. If die off occurs too rapidly, it can overwhelm your body’s ability to deal with it.

Below is a list of all the antifungals that I’m familiar with. Despite that all of them are considered to have an effect, the ones considered most important are marked with asterix (*).

• GSE (Grapefruit Seed Extract)*. One of the most recommended antifungal natural cure remedies.
• Oil of Oregano*
• Garlic* Very effective in higher doses, best as tablets with a highly concentrated form of aniline, not causing a strong odoeur (smelling free).
• Coconut Oil Extra Virgin*
• Black Walnut/Wormwood*
• Caprylic Acid*
• Pau D’Arco*
• Olive Leaf Extract
• Liquid Chlorophyl

Rebuild Intestinal Flora and Restore Intestinal Health

You can rebuild your intestinal flora using probiotics such as acidophilus. However remember to make sure that the concentration of alive bacteries is high enough to have an effect. This can be assured by

• Purchasing products of probiotics guaranteeing some minimum effect at the time of purchase.
• Buying probiotics that have been kept cold during the storage since heat contributes to the degrading of the product / the bacterias die.
• Bye a probiotic product which contains inulin

Cabbage is another great source of lactobacteria. Cabbage rejuvelac is a good way to repopulate your gut with probiotics. Here’s how to make cabbage rejuvelac:

No starter is needed for making this rejuvelac.  Start one morning by blending together 1-3/4 cups distilled or purified water plus 3 cups of coarsely chopped, loosely packed fresh cabbage. Start the blender at low speed and then advance the blender to high speed and blend for 30 more seconds. Pour into a jar (a quart jar is excellent to use), cover tightly (ensure there is at least 1 inch of space above the mixture), and let it stand at room temperature for 3 days. After 3 days strain off the liquid rejuvelac and discard the cabbage.

The initial batch of cabbage rejuvelac takes 3 days to mature, but succeeding batches take 24 hours each. Each morning after straining off the fresh rejuvelac, blend together 1-1/2 cups of distilled or purified water plus 3 cups of coarsely ground, loosely packed fresh cabbage, for 30 seconds at high speed. Pour it into a jar and add 1/4 cup of the fresh rejuvelac just strained off, cover, shake, and let it stand at room temperature until the next morning.

If you are not lactose intolerant or allergic to milk and would like to eat yogurt or kefir as well, I would recommend the Stonyfield Farm’s and Nancy’s brands.

If you are lactose intolerant, you can make your own yoghurt and process it for 24 hours instead of 4 to 10 like the commercial yogurt companies do. When fermenting the yoghurt for 24 hours all lactose is destroyed. If you want to find out more about this go to: SCD Yoghurt

Now that you know how to rebuild the intestinal flora, here is how to rebuild intestinal health. The walls of your intestines may have become permeable and and enflamed due to the candida. Here are some supplements that will help you heal and rebuild your intestinal health.

MSM (Methyl-sulfonylmethane)

DGL (Deglycyrrhizinated Licorice). The reason to take it in this form is to avoid a too high blood pressure which to some can be a problem. In case you are not in the high risk group then a limited amount of licorice will not do harm and costs considerably less. You could make a tea and blend in a bit of fine ground licorice powder.

NAG (N-Acetyl Glucosamine)

L-Glutamine

Boost Your Immune System

• Do acupressure. This can easily be learned from some good handbook. When it hurts it means you need it for balancing /augmenting your energy flow along the meridians, the energy highways of the body.
• Do acupuncture. Look for a good experienced acupuncturist in your neighbourhood.
• Take immune reinforcing herbs such as Echinacea. They can be purchased as alcohol based extracts.

A good advice on how to maximize the effect when taking natural herbs, is to take it along with honey or some beverant with honey added. At best use honey based on local flowers since they will aid in minimizing sensitivity to the pollen of local vegetation. This is an old advice from the legendary Switz natural doctor, one of my idols, Dr. Alfred Vogel.

Surely you can cure Candida by being disciplined and covering the four steps of the Candida cure.

General Healthy Diet

This diet is good for as well the healthy as the sick. It can be followed for all life for strong gains in health! Obviously those who want to defeat a Candida infection should apply the rules specified above until the infection is completely eradicated.

MORNING:

• Just get up: juice 1/2 lemon in a glass of warm water. You can sweeten a teaspoon of sugar cane. To recharge your batteries, or add a packet of Polase Troca or Mg-KVIS (Magnesium + Potassium supplements are).

• Breakfast: apple or fruit in season (perhaps preceded by 4/5 prunes put to soak the night before). Alternatively: yogurt or herbal tea with wholemeal biscuits.

• The fruit must always be taken between meals (at least 1 hour before and three hours later), because it mixed with starches (bread, cookies, etc..), Creates fermentation.

• Do not mix acids and carbohydrates (orange juice with biscuits or bread and jam) because they cause fermentation.

  Do not drink cappuccino or other dairy products!

  Do not mix acidic fruit (oranges, grapefruit) with sweat fruit (apples, pears, etc..)

LUNCH:

• Only the first course (pasta, rice, pizza, etc..) with plenty of vegetables (preferably raw). You can add a dozen of black olives.

• Avoid dessert!
  Remember not to have sweetened drinks after your meal.
  Do not use vinegar with your salad after having ingested starch (bread, pizza, pasta, rice, etc..).

Take a mineral supplement (after eating) or one tablet of Multicentrum DIAGRAN strengthened on alternate days.

DINNER:

• Only the second, alternating: eggs, chicken, fish (not shellfish), sheep or goat cheese or soy (tofu is called) with plenty of vegetables (preferably raw). You can alternate with some fruit and natural yoghurt.

• Do not have dessert!
  Don’t take sweetened drinks after your meal .

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People generally believe that everything is solved by will power and when a problem persists such as addiction or lack of success the cause is again: Lack of will power. Let me explain why that belief is a fatal mistake.

Throughout the last 1½ century, or since people went to the cities to work in fabrics, the inclusion of values belief and faith in peoples life has been decreasing. Simultaneously there has been an increasing emphasis on the commonly approved hypotecy that everything is solved with action, action and action.

Nothing could be more wrong since action without a goal based on deep values is a vulnerable goal which makes the owner vulnerable.

This is the reason society is in despair and starving for another life based on true values; a meaningful existence instead of this indifferent view that nothing matters and one might as well just get as much for one self when now we are here anyway. People just don’t realize that that is what they are really starving for.

So every time this sense of not being satisfied comes up in one, it leads to a perfectionistic thought such as: ” Well I have to do more, yes one day I will make it if I just am strong and work harder. “

The thing is that taking this perfectionistic approach, so typical of people wanting to achieve goals in business leads to one or more of the following things:

• Having achieved the goal but still wanting more in order to be truly happy; a never ending quest.

• Not having reached the goal and being bitter about that

• Being stressed from working a lot

• Being stressed from never living up to unlimited requirements of oneself and a deep hope to be number one in about every discipline on earth, if only there was more time (which the busy business man always complain about that there isn’t – “I am so busy, I am so busy, I am so busy”. Ya da ya da ya da. It all springs from a too high emphasis on the ego and achievements and a desperate incredibly big need for attention and acceptance, COMING FROM OTHER BEWILDERED PEOPLE who also are  blowing around with the wind of coincidence, hoping to get their piece of the cake.

• One will never be able to rest if success as defined nowadays is the criteria.

• If having too big problems there is nothing to fall back on since its win or loose. No higher teaching to carry one through life. Just a coincidental collection of viewpoints meant to guide one through life which usually never works or only in specific situations but under new circumstances not. That is the reason people without the deeper cover and belief in meaning, fall very deep unless they are so trained in that discipline or have such a good network that they know how to pick themselves up. Those who manage have faith that they will always manage. Its however an ego based faith. Others start to have deep doubt about all their life foundation since before they believed they were incarnated to have success but then suddenly they got blown of their feet by other circumstances, such as the financial crisis making many people have to start from scratch or better again, find a new belief and way to regard life and meaning.

To relax, enjoy life and still have success, the following things are important

• it is important to be honest about ones beliefs and base ones goal on them. Do you really want that and want to give what it takes.

• What are your priorities

• What are your talents

• Do you deeply believe you are good enough to achieve it and capable of it?

• What is your plan B when things don’t seem to go as you wished for. Do you stop and think if there is a better way? Do you continue but just working harder? It is important to know where the effort should be put. Lets call it smart working.

If one doesn’t have faith in ones ability then making goals doesn’t make sense. One will never accomplish them.

The biggest problem is the lack of faith and the sure belief that things will go well if just one follows some basic values. One doesn’t need to be a control freak but simply act according to faith that by doing things instead of loosing faith and doing wrong things, one will arrive at the goal sooner or later.

Usually what happens, and why so many fail, despite of having had a good idea is:

• They believe in coincidence

• They suddenly doubt whether they will be lucky and have success. They place the responsibility outside instead of inside.

• They don’t act according to what I would call the clean path but sin by loosing faith and doing things as a kind of distractor from the true purpose and intention. Its a bad habit of doing something else when loosing faith that one will succeed. It can be over eating, over indulging in sex or sex with the wrong person and not based on love or a long term goal, gambling, drinking, taking drugs and all sorts of escapism.

  Actually overwork is another common escapistic behavior: It springs from lack of faith, lack of feeling happy and trying to solve this with control and working as hard as possible, nurturing a neurotic fear of loosing if one stops for too long time. It’s equal to a view of only being happy once some goal is achieved. It’s a very uncertain way to achieve goals since the mentality is fragile and not based on deeper values, which is the right way to recharge the batteries and get creative and strong. Well, that is the reason the person tries to control everything but forgets to live with grace and faith, even forgets to appreciate his/her family.

  Look how business people rush to leadership courses to learn how to believe in themselves, yet another tool to feed the egos illusory self indulgence, while forgetting the simplicity of living a harmonic life of grace and purity which is true power and doesn’t hurt others.

When a person looses faith in a thing he automatically looks for alternatives to fill in that empty space. If doing destructive things and things that are conceived a waste of time, it will contribute to an even higher feeling of sinning and not being worthy. This leads to more escapistic behavior and so on.

Lack of faith leads to escapism and bad habits that in turn generate an even higher lack of faith.

- How to Be Happy Quotes

It sort of gets an escape away from the thing in which one has lost belief, because it hurts to think about so its better just to abandon completely. Often projects and dreams of business and success get dropped like that.

The solution is to nurture faith by not stressing one to much, not expecting the achievements of certain high goals to be served in an instant in order to be satisfactory.

Instead being happy by having faith, accepting the present situation as is and knowing intuitively that when acting according to faith and doing the right things and prioritizing actions accordingly, then inevitably one will succeed

It’s better to celebrate smaller steps and keep going, than to work like a crazy and suddenly give up due to loosing faith. It is also good to have the goal simplified and clear in mind when starting, especially if the project is complex.

It is important to put ones will power in the right direction, such as not focusing too much on details before the big lines have been drawn.

If tending to be perfectionistic then this is even more vital for having success.

I speak about faith a lot. I believe faith in a deeper meaning leads to clean, loyal and honorful behavior which again reinforces faith and justifies faith in the achievements of ones goals.

It is highly important to keep ones path clean and act from honoring deep wisdom and meaningful values, respecting a higher power that also sees to a higher justice, often beyond our comprehension.

Some people with bad intention succeed in their own eyes and seem unstoppable. They are strongly convinced about their own views and acting according to them. Therefore they apparently succeed but when they realize that their values were wrong or regardless of realizing that, then it will have consequences. Ones consciousness serves a fine purpose. One better listen to it, if based on true understanding, before it’s too late and the whole of it crashes.

It all boils down to humbleness and the insight, that it is better thinking one doesn’t know anything, contrary to the egoistic approach. Only in this humble faithful way one is open to the deeper truth and will arive at correct conclusions in about anything. The speed of doing so depends on the experience and the details of life, but the basic belief and humble readiness to know and learn and thus undermine egoistic weaknesses, this is the foundation for ever learning things of value and become truly strong and successful.

If one in some way manages to be successful without following and basing one’s course on deep wisdom, it might be due to others supporting and praising one, because they are basically ignorant and therefore lead the wrong people to the top.

The old saying that equal children play better seems to be true but is it a good thing? I doubt that. I think the original intention would be that everybody could talk with everybody and learn from those who have important not ego based things to say.

However due to the splitting up into nationalities, races, classes etc. which is a consequense of the egoism and wanting to protect one self, it seems better to fight to keep what one has obtained.

However according to asian philosophy, vedic philosophy, one should give to get, one should circulate to get back some thing, therefore money is called “currency” which origins from the latin word correre which means to run.

Never the less the modern belief if to retain, fight and keep for oneself and the closest ones according to ones taste of personality, not wisdom, nor fair values.

Equal minds are attracted by each others: Egoists by egoists and evil people by evil people.

- How to Be Happy Quotes

One might feel superior and perhaps high from being able to fool the “ignorant” naive people and get success on that basis. But I believe such egoistic approach has a high price, a price that is higher than the godless wish to believe. I think we could call it seeming to win but loosing every bit that is worth something.

Appearing to be good is not enough

Often people who think they want to do good, lack deep values and tend to continue applying their overly perfectionistic view on the matter of moral and doing the right.

However since their values are defined by themselves in an egoistic manner and from egoistic goals, not goals honoring higher values, principles and wisdom, they will also become stressed from this new “trend ” that they are pursuing.

It will end as just another of their many kicks of self esteem raising actions. They might believe they have succeeded with their aggressive winning approach, but in the end they will just become sick and unsatisfied never the less. They have made a wrong choice and priority. God and deep wisdom should come first.

It doesn’t work wanting to pretend to do good and use it for feeling good and look good to others. Ones self invented basic ‘values’ have to be cleaned out along with the egoistic approach. If replaced by humbleness and thereby a deep intention to learn and improve, especially the most important essential teachings of life, then success will be inevitable while not being a weak point.

Failures will not be regarded as failures but as stepping stones. They will serve for learning some thing. The mind will be depleted from perfectionism and stubborn vanity. It will be replaced by true deep strength, patience and endurance.

Good day

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In todays world it is unhealthy to depend on others: Relationship dependency, meaning all kinds of dependence on other persons, is bad.

Nor is it good to identify with a role, which is ok only if accepted enough by others: It could be a title or a more or less obsessive need to be popular and accepted. So is there a healing cure? I’ll tell.

After I wrote and reread this I decided to add this: Don’t just read this as an intellectual debate, but as inspiration and some suggestion of a better alternative. Keep in your mind that life can be simple and beautiful as you read. That is my true intention.

• Why Relationship Dependency is Bad

• Dependency & Fame or Enlightenment

• How Judging Killed Mutual Trust and Made Relationship Dependency Dangerous –
  The fall from innocent pure values

• Why are people dependent on relationships?

• How to fulfill the inner needs

• Freedom from Victimization

• How to deal with loss in life

• Loyalty to our universal source means true freedom

• Loving unconditionally

• The consequences of unholy relationships

• True Success

• The hopelessness of todays politics

• Dependency on Fame and Acceptance

• Fragility of Dependency Relationships

• Healing Cure for Relationship Dependency

Why Relationship Dependency is Bad

Why is relationship dependence so bad? Is it not an expression of love? It is bad since with todays globally accepted “values”, no one share common deep values and everybody define their own ideas of what can be done and what is fair; all based on smooth arguments of justice that the brain makes up so conveniently and aided by society’s norms of justice. The goal, though being egoistic in its nature, kind of facilitates the process of justification.

In my eyes that is a typical outspread weakness of the modern ego: To work in these deceitful ways due to a stubborn clinging to main stream egoistic values, meaning a close to collective dysfunctional hostility and paranoia resulting in always aiming for proof of ones superiority and worth to others while never being satisfied.

It is a kind of general neurotic behavior with the cause being egoism causing blindness (not to say ignorance). People just only prefer using that etiquette for people with visible symptoms; people that have given up on hiding their weakness and inner despair.

The character defects of the modern ego include being hostile, egocentric and often bordering to majority complexes (or the complete opposite when comparing one self to others), disregarding others, ignorance with regards to love and justice, vanity, dishonesty, dependency, greed and the need to be number one while suppressing others. Let’s just call it egoism from now on.

Yes, I know so many say that egoism is important for having success. Let them believe so but don’t buy it! It is a word of mouth argument without truth inside. It is a defense mechanism triggered by the resistance to change, including assimilation of new knowledge. Do you also want to take that blinding alley? If so then don’t read more.

These character defects and others have been nurtured for eons of time. Probably it has part wise arisen due to people at some point in time having taken that route in their mind, probably people with power and something to prove.

Followingly they have influenced people to follow those thoughts and it has become a global epidemic starting somewhere and very likely having been spread due to the colonization of the world and due to earlier wars and the accompanying need to find arguments to hate those living on the other side of some invented border.

Dependency & Fame or Enlightenment

In fact I am tempted to say that always running to prove ones worth to others will prevent one from getting enlightened. It is so since having success with such a superficial illusion, to only be successful if others applaud one, means one will get trapped in that alley.

In fact humanity has been trapped in this illusion for eons but worse today due to the globalisation. The globalisation on the other hand was caused by what I call the egoistic expansion thought which has taken the shape of commercialism, in todays so called humane and civilized world. (Perhaps more on that another day)

However one day one will suddenly loose that apparent fame, admiration and acceptance and will be worse than before since life might have passed without any awakening to true purposes, which definitely do not depend on others, rather on doing the right, regardless of others. It is easy to understand why one shouldn’t depend on others.

One way to understand it is to think that others really want their own best and only have their limited idea of the world and thus you allow not enlightened beings to determine whether you, who was created by our maker, is good enough.

It is evident that those are not capable of doing so. You actually abandon your freedom and responsibility and only do what you think will make others proclaim you a winner, according to the present standards.

The truth is that they, due to this egoistic mindset, will do everything in their power to be number one including to push you as far down into the mud as possible if only slightly conceiving you to be competition.

Only if you have achieved superiority according to the winning standards, they will flock around you, not from loyalty or with good wills (they don’t know what that implies) but to get their piece of the cake by allying themselves with you.

So in reality all your work to be number one results in becoming the prime target of envy from people who don’t regard you with loving wisdom but see you as a means to their own goal. How beautiful is that?

Try to remember these ideas the next time you hear the egoistic words: Growth, competition and power.

Involving love I could say to men (as to women if changing the words a bit): “Men don’t compete for a women by trying to impress her with titles or money. Be open and open your heart, give from the heart and then the woman who sees it and loves it will be ever loyal to the REAL you, not your desperate, perfect but false facade. All the women who are superficial will perhaps not be interested but are you?

No need for competition and desperate fighting to remain number one in her eyes. You wouldn’t be able to know what truly would make her forever loyal anyway, since that is her decision: And her taking such a decision from strategic calculations of power, prestige, money and importance or personal winnings, will mean a very vulnerable relationship and also a false love.

She would think she loved you but only because she doesn’t deeply understand love, and thus one day she will think it has gone and will go with another.

True love doesn’t just go away. It is based on solid rock and the values of our maker. Remember the biblical word Agape in Greek means God and love as well. Just a reminder.

Also again to men: The next time you look at a woman, try to imagine her without hair and a polished exterior. Would you still be interested and still think you would love her without limits?

I know sometimes women cut their hair short, not because they are without vanity but because they feel superior and want to show it in this way. They know that you know this. They did that test for you already.

Well there are many other reasons, such as being tired of long hair, tired of the stereotypical view on how a woman has to look, but this is one of them.

Vanity and egocentricism is a wrong alley to go down, but lack of self esteem and tendencies to feeling guilty and inadequate, usually originating in childhood, is also a wrong alley to take. One should base his self esteem on his heart, thoughts and good behavior.

Good behavior without good thoughts is not good enough. It is just a facade. Better to know which thoughts and values lie behind the actions than be deceived by a possible mass murderer who suddenly hates you enough to kill you, due to internal wrongful thoughts.

How Judging Killed Mutual Trust and Made Relationship Dependency Dangerous

The fall from innocent pure values

Just before I talked about what happens if you allow the externals to judge you and depend on others to recognize you and approve of you. “You actually abandon your freedom and responsibility and only do what you think, will make others proclaim you a winner, according to the present standards.”

For the same reason we always hear the phrase: “Don’t judge others.” It is an old truth that shows why we should not depend on others, since it means we are vulnerable to their judgments.

How can you judge others when you don’t know the whole story and don’t have the overview. People obsessed with judging, well whole countries obsessed with judging, are not giving the people a chance to improve.

So since we can’t wait for people to stop judging in general, most people don’t look for – or care about God anyway, then we have to stop relying on the good will of people, which will hardly ever come: Unless we remove competition from their life which will give them an empty peaceful space and make them wonder what to do with it.

Not to be pessimistic but to begin with they would probably look for problems and troubles since this is the ways of the ego centered mind, so closed to faith and a higher good meaning and freedom.

So in short: You can show good will but don’t expect it from others. Be open to the possibility but don’t rely on it or let unfulfilled expectations make you bitter and destructive. Have faith but keep the wisdom: That most are unenlightened and don’t have the intention or belief in doing good. Their behavior mostly reflects the norms and limitations they have been raised with such as fear of imprisonments and fear of not being accepted by others, since loneliness is a tough one. But deeper motivation is hard to find.

Society being based on such a lack of wisdom means it is highly vulnerable to even small fluctuations which easily removes the thin motivations of people to abstain from doing very bad things to others. It can be disasters or shift in power that makes people loose respect and fear of justice and their seemingly nice behavior vanishes like vapor at the light of the sun.

Why are people dependent on relationships?

The seed of relationship dependency is initially laid in life situations where love is absent and a person senses the basic lack of love and acceptance. However the argument for keeping this weakness and false need alive, is the egoistic mindset that people are raised with and taught by society.

It is the interpretation of the life situation that causes the reaction which is a desperate attempt to feel accomplished and recognized as number 1.

This false belief causes people to seek self esteem externally and from people and bureaucracies that don’t have a clue about the deep important values of life.

Humans wrongly adapt the view that society is what one should learn from and follow in order to be worth something.

How to fulfill the inner needs

The basic needs of love and acceptance would automatically be fulfilled in the perfect world regardless of achievements and public agreements as to what is success and who is successful. It would come alone from seeking to comply with the truth and basic justice of our universal origin.

The same superior power that granted us life also gave us the possibility to feel happy and accepted, but not based on egoistic peoples judgments and shortsightedness of mind.

I wish to postulate that: In this world of no teaching of basic truths, a world of powers counteracting the belief in a supreme creative power from which we origin and through which we are connected, one is better of loosing all that apparent success and awaken to a more basic and clean reality with no facades and false categorizations of people.

The Bible says: “You cannot serve God and mammon.” It means what it says: You can earn money but not serve them. God should be of the first priority.

Freedom from Victimization

You could also imagine the perfect world as one of true justice where people are responsible and not judged but free and realizing their space to develop and do their absolute best, instead of playing hopeless suffering victims of coincidence.

They are only victims of their own lack of willingness to know and follow the truth, which grants happiness. But it hardly can be called victims since they are free to choose. They simply have stubbornly decided to be loyal to people’s and society’s lack of values, paradoxically enough.

A wise person knows that no matter what other evil tongs say, they are not truly capable of – or entitled to judging another, and so one is untouchable through that knowledge, not intellectual guessing but intuitively knowing (means knowing as doing and being).

So knowing AND understanding this deep truth frees one to ignore the evilness of others. It frees one to continue doing what one has discovered are meaningful purposes, without hating others but taking the right measures to not let them influence ones wellbeing.

So if for some reason you don’t feel good somewhere, do one of the following three things: Change it, accept it or leave and don’t even look back. I have literally practiced that in my life.

How to deal with loss in life

When loosing something one thought to be precious, which showed to have been an illusion not worth fighting for, then despite of realizing this and getting up on the feet, there might still be some grieving.

This grieving however pertains to a deeper lack in life, not the lack or loss of a specific person. If one knows what is important in the universe then one will accept things and have faith in the greatness of the life and existence and the grief will be replaced by inner peace and wanting to know the higher order of things better.

One will have faith in our maker and the universal laws, and accept some failed earthly things while still doing the right, instead of getting bitter. One will learn to have faith, when learning to accept things and understanding that action backed up by good will will lead to good results and replace bitterness, delusion and hate inherited in thinking as a victim. I already defined “victim mentality” and it has got absolutely nothing to do with outer appearance. It is referring to the way of thinking, not the apparent attitude.

Loyalty to our universal source means true freedom

One will become free from dependence while remaining loyal to the true deeper power, who in the Bible calls itself “I am that I am” according to the bible, or many original variations such as Jahve Iahve, Jehova Iehova, Yehohva, Yau, Iau, Iah etc depending on the local dialect of places where Gods name was pronounced.

So if there is some deep problem I don’t mean just leave your wife or husband. That is something to work with if there is will on both sides.

What I mean is: There is no reason to try to fit into some crazy judgmental environments if you inside know it is not fair, not good for you. You could be waiting until grass would grow on the moon, meaning forever without seeing changes.

Loving unconditionally

Before you have done absolutely everything you could without judging the other, and therefore holding back love for that reason, you are not in a position to judge the other. Therefore saying that love is unconditional makes sense. One should not love because the other does this or this.

One should decide to love and then be loyal to the love. It’s easy when love is profoundly understood and integrated in ones life view and behavior.

Love is the most basic of the true values. It encompasses them all. Who would for example lie or be disloyal if following true love?

Again I wish to repeat that love is NOT to be defined as some affection, romantic behavior, tickling sensation and emotions. Those things are just signs of surrendering to the other and DECIDING to BELIEVE in the other as some kind of perfect savior, completing one’s self image.

But it is not true love if not based on deep wisdom, fairness and loyalty. Therefore one should DECIDE to love in a wise manner instead of allowing oneself to become a victim of illusions that make one feel good despite of not being based on commitment or truth. Such sentiments are rather egoistic illusions that involve the requirement of the other to live up to subjective expectations in order to qualify for this relationship of “love”.

You often see this false “love” reflected in films as some character feeling lucky and happy and flying on a cloud, but in reality happy on a wrong and fragile ground which often breaks and is only won back by overcoming the most impossible tasks by the hero. True love is as said not conditioned. It is wise, not pompous, not naive and illusory, not egoistic, not coincidental: When established it doesn’t break since it is founded on truth and true values that assure its longevity.

Just to analyze a bit more. When the hero in the film feels happy it usually is based on a feeling of relief from having won an impossible lottery. He sees love as “luck” and a coincidence and fights to keep it, when in reality love is neither luck nor an illusion that has to be maintained, neither so by fighting.

It is an agreement among other things to give space to the partner and loyalty and this oath is the base of true happiness. In that way the love partners live in happiness without fear of having to defend the relationship or marriage since both parties are responsible beings and if anyway one should show to not live up to that responsibility the blame should never be put on the loyal part if having done the best but on the disloyal part for not having given space and inspired the other to improve.

Love is not about requiring perfection from the other but about giving space to develop and improve. Its not about betraying the other if the egoistic requirements are not met. Thats simply disloyalty based on illusions of being right, without even giving the other a chance to improve. Typically that is what I have observed in society. It doesn’t surprise me that relationships are so short lived or false. Also what stops after 10 years should never have been started. Or one or the other part has heavily disregarded their oath of loyalty.

Therefore sex should wait until marriage. It is extremely wrong to let sex, such a superficial thing which everyone can do without problems, determine whether a couple stays together. Sex is the reason that most relationships are very wrong. They are illusions maintained for egoistic reasons without the bravery of good virtues such as honesty, wisdom, patience, loyalty, sweetness, giving instead of requiring and taking.

What is usually and wrongfully obeyed is some illusion of a perfect match due to the illusion made by the parties when having intercourse. Often having sex without knowing each other deeply, means that the two surrender to some illusion that they create themselves and perhaps facilitated by some manipulative behavior of the other part to complete the illusion of perfection and to motivate the surrender to affection.

It is nothing but a naive intimate commitment based on egoic, thus unintelligent considerations.

There is no magic. It is all made up by the mind, almost as if worshiping some self created god. The creation of this illusion is perhaps motivated by having felt lonely or unappreciated for longer time, which on the other hand might owe to some chronic resistance to GIVING; and who never gives never gains.

Many live in fear of loosing something such as their false illusory identity, dignity or the feeling of being a winner etc. Despite of wanting everything from others and almost expecting it as an obligation, they are not willing to give at least from the heart.

Therefore they hesitate with having normal open relationships with the other gender and therefore the contact gets so clumsy and based on fear and the idea of having to be perfect to not loose.

Also the idea that friends of the opposite gender should never engage into a love relationship is ridiculous since that would be the most natural and wise decision. Who said that ones wife or husband can’t also be ones best friend?

In fact I think that should be an obvious choice. The reason for this mis perception is that love is not understood correctly and instead as some relationship of illusions of perfection serving to feed the egos egoistic and unwise requirements, thus taking the attention away from the things that matters.

Love should be a decision involving acceptance. Thus if the other part makes mistakes, and if the ego is suppressed, those mistakes are no problem but are easily corrected and therefore the other should be patient and accepting and love is exactly that. If this space exists as well as the good will to improve then improvement will take place.

If on the other hand the egoic judgments are prevailing, no space is given and transformation is blocked by defense mechanisms and lack of the necessary equilibrium to change or create better habits.

True love gives space for transformation and enlightenment and increased holy love. It doesn’t minimize sexual pleasure which people turning to more extreme and bizarre sexual experiments believe. They try to solve their emptiness with exaggeration of sex despite the base on which pleasure should be founded, love, isn’t existing.

Of course we were created to feel pleasure but the first thing to focus on is love. That is the foundation and the holy marriage. Sex alone is empty and meaningless and superficial. In itself it is nothing but a blind alley and no path to deep happiness and pleasure.

Many people basing their destiny on the false ego would disagree I know, and perhaps defend some superficial proud “happiness” gained from a single life based on apparent success, lots of bloated self esteem, little tolerance for others and superficial occasional pleasures with the opposite gender.

The truth is, they don’t understand the power of the true values of life, the universal rules of true success, which are not egoistic and don’t cause others to suffer. They are chasing bobbles as if they were everlasting and precious, while in fact they can burst any moment.

The consequences of unholy relationships

Everything natural on which a solid relationship ought to be based, gets lost in egoic illusions and as a result we truly can talk about coincidental relationships that have been forced by fear, greed, cravings, the urge to feel important and the need to possess something and receive.

Those are risky games causing a lot of pain in the world, not least for the children that are based on such shortsightedness and superficiality.

It seems paradoxical that many couples raise children while not believing in/knowing the meaning of life and the power of life. It’s wasted existence. No, not wasted since if not seeking a purpose and aiming for fulfilling pure motives, they will serve as extras, as background noise and troublemakers which can inspire the awakening of others who suffer at their hands and deeds. One needs to think in a non ego based way to comprehend this. It all serves some purpose.

However some couples make at least some transformation when realizing the responsibility that is required from parents. At least some minimum of change usually accompanies the necessity of not risking to appear bad parents, again an egoic motive coming into the picture.

But if one manages to overcome and eliminate the ego and fear of being seen as bad parents, then a much deeper and more true responsibility, not seeming a burden but a welcomed responsibility based on love and appreciation, replaces the ego.

Again this transformation all depends on whether the greedy ego gets seen for what it is and thus defeated: An illusion that the thoughts, memories and subjective interpretations is ones true identity and perhaps even the universal ‘truth’, depending on the size of the ego.

True Success

In fact the more the ego dissapears and makes space for a new universal understanding, the easier it will be to comprehend all kinds of life matters in the right way. Basing ones true personality on the truth instead of self made chosen illusions, also is reflected in seeing the truth of the details of life.

To transform this into material success is yet another thing which again requires a certain prioritization and other skills. But definitely it is a good start meaning unconditioned happiness and focus on the important things. It includes the wisdom needed to avoid decaying into superficial obsessions such as money, prestige, sex, food, drugs, sport, titles, importance, recognition and always wanting to be right as a way to nurture ones false self image.

The center point will be the truth, not an illusion and coincidential choice of identity due to unintelligent assumptions and conclusions which is the consequence of identifying with form and ones brain. The latter choice is weakness and fragility. 

Usually success is sought fulfilled in an obsessive way and perhaps even within a totally wrong profession in the first place. Thats how the world is today.

A person who bases his life on the truth, meaning who gains control over his ego and eliminates it’s control over his true free spirit, will not be obsessed with success as such but choose in a more wise manner and create success based on a deeper real intelligence.

Someone said about the ego which consists of ideas:

The hopelessness of todays politics

Back to waiting for another to change basic values. Changes of that kind are slow and often not something that take place within a life time. They ought to be fed the truth with the spoon before the strong identification with the false self, the ego, gets established. I don’t speak about any ego based indoctrination but on giving space for the true self to blossom which will cast light on earth.

For the same reason I believe politics today is wasted powers without results. Often voting seems indifferent since no one is truly capable of knowing if the one being voted for is just good at appearance or is truly as good as he says.

I believe politics would serve its original intention and purpose only if based on more basic values instead of the actual superficial battles about minor changes that don’t go deep enough to matter.

The only thing making sense would be to continuously regulate rules, laws and regulatives to make them comply with basic values. As things are now in all democratic countries, the law and foundation written long ago is being twisted and bend in many creative but unintended ways, due to having forgotten the original spirit and true meaning of it, and due to the modern shape and intention of egoistic powers.

It might rather be the more humble type which noone talks about but who doesn’t get elected for that reason. Anyway usually politic in a democracy is just two sides of the same coin, in many cases at least.

I know there are countries with rather pronounced differences where choosing the right might matter. But don’t they all sit around the same table, so how could some outstanding genius just enter and take away their power like that. To be invited to that table one should look rather the same as those who invited.

So excuse me but I think new radical and more basic thinking has to be made if earthlings ever intend to get anywhere of importance, other than false shows of care and nurturing.

Dependency on Fame and Acceptance

Famous or semi famous people flock around opportunities to promote themselves or maintain their recognition by doing something good.

One thing is sure, those big samaritan shows are nothing if not really backed up by a truelly altruistic and humble person without  the typical mainstream ego, of those who just wish to take as big a bite of apparent success as possible.

I believe that all we need is to create an atmosphere that says: ‘Its enough to care about those in your circles and give space to people in general.’ To have an earth of peace and where people have enough, this is sufficient and no occasional tv shows or continuous collecting of money should be relied on.’

I am watching the Olympic games. Its fun if you like to watch but I prefer to do sport myself and there is not much motion in watching the tv.

Also where are those people in just 5 years? Poor bewildered drug addicts having spend their fast earned money on some piece of fame? You answer that.

Fragility of Dependency Relationships

Let’s talk about the famous dependency of relationships: My postulate / my belief is that a typical relationship consists of one suffering desperate “victim” and the other feeling sure about his or her own superiority and therefore safe and with sure self esteem. The “victim” part only has the image of himself/herself to be a victim controlled by outer factors and thus depending on others to be happy.

Actually most people are victims in one or another way, but one is less victim with regards to the relationship due to a high selfesteem in that matter, or due to having settled in a “sure” relationship with the other being desperate, dependent and afraid of loosing.

Typically one or both of them is also very focused on the acceptance from people outside of the relationship so if breaking up with the other one, there usually are plenty of alternatives which the person has made sure exist by getting popular and showing affection to others, while not focusing on – but often rather ignoring the true official partner.

The “victim” in the relationship might fight to seem important in the eyes of the other, a fight impossible to win and inevitably leading to loss of respect and “affection” (what we usually refer to as love), since people usually confuse love with an illusion of the partner completing their own perfection.

So when the partner can’t hide the weaknesses anymore he/she looses credibility and “love” in the eyes of the stronger more selfconfident partner. It might as well be the other way around, since usually, both of them are competing the battle of superiority which they both believe in. Initially this egoic view on “love” is what brought them together and made them respect each other.

Egoic/egoistic people usually only respect even bigger egos. Equal wants to play with or worship equal or more of the same. They could be with the most loving and fair person in the world and still be rude to him and insult him in a hateful way. Thats what people did to Jesus. Thats because their egos blocked the deeper intelligence and wisdom and therefore love.

So fighting to make the other stay is a blind alley and the reason is that you can’t make an ego centered person stay (the “winner” of the relationship) but you can make him or her feel great about him self and withdrawing the process of ending the relationship.

Actually the “victim” basically is no victim, other than having a too high need for acceptance. Often this origins from earlier failed relationships including those with one or both parents, which has resulted in a desperate attempt to compensate for this memory of feeling not loved enough. Often this leads to a kind of prostituting oneself in a desperate attempt to get attention and recognition/accepted.

Therefore it might as well be the “victim” who, from fear of not getting what he/she “deserves”, starts cheating on the other and therefore is the cause of the destruction of their relationship.

It’s because the “victim” feels weak, though this is mainly an internal conviction or fear of inferiority, a complex, and therefore senses an urge to control everything into the favor of himself/herself including the love from the partner, in order to create a false sense of being strong.

But surely this is a fundamentally wrong strategy, bound to fail and strategies shouldn’t belong in relationships anyway.

Well, some relationships of that kind might last all life, despite they haven’t been founded on true love. They have persisted only because one or both were not able to find a “better” more satisfactory partner. Satisfactory to one self, but not honoring the true principles of love.

Other relationships are alternating with regards to who plays the superior role, respectively the victim part. In essence most relationships reflect society’s norms and so are small battles of superiority where giving love is equal to weakness and therefore if seeming to be love, is rather an expression of desperation or egoistic decision to give something for strategic reasons, instead of giving it to another.

Unfortunately many relationships are initiated on false egoistic grounds, desperation, are races of feeling important and desired, and therefore they will fade out fast or slowly depending on opportunities and the luck of the egocentric partner.

I don’t speak from bitterness since I have always based love on basic issues such as honesty, loyalty, mutual trust and demonstrations of love rather than on power games.

I learned that acceptance was much better than fighting to make things become in a certain way, due to wanting to feel secure. Often wanting to change the externals is related to doubt about ones worth. Consequently one seeks to create some security, for example within the relationship.

When following this path it ultimately leads to a higher understanding universal foundation which makes sense in the bigger perspective. One accompanying insight is to have faith in the future and thus never to worry. That insight, which is also reflected in the Bible, gives one an enormous freedom and flexibility.

Unfortunately relationships of today are very coincidental and fragile. People make themselves victims or egocentric winners; depending or just withdrawing from relationships as surely as the tide changes. That is unfortunately the truth and who has build some mental “we have to love everybody because every body are good and deserve to be respected” should bury that illusion.

People are not good when they decide otherwise. That is the raw cold fact.

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What to do about it? We can only take responsibility for ourselves and give space to others and thereby end the vicious circle of belittled people with a vengeance; when deciding to, we stop contributing to hate and people feeling bitter and wanting to revenge.

If you don’t involve your self emotionally in their self inflicted war, they will soon wonder and stop.

But this should not refrain one from criticizing what does not work, while maintaining a cold head and not become personal and offensive.

The world doesn’t change due to naivity and wishful illusions but from telling how things stand and then change them.

I always noticed how people seemed to never rest and seemed to be running away from something.

Later I found out why. They run fast to avoid thinking about the deeper issues and values of life, which somewhere inside make them have some nagging insecurity, despite of a tough or self confident external.

The external only reflects a narrow minded egoistic approach and on close look and examination it will show to be weak and fake, such as a smoker seeming confident in himself while fighting to hide the insecurity inside.

So the conclusion is that we need to wake up to responsibility meaning to stop feeling victims and stop believing that we can’t change the life situation or who we seem to be. It is the believe in being a victim, the rejection of the truth of our supreme power and its laws, which makes people act as people without free will. They create a self fulfilling destructive circle that inevitably will have a fatal result.

They lack the faith and only believe what they see now, instead of understanding and having faith in their power to change things and create them if believing, which means exclusion of the so vulnerable and coincidental success that everybody fight about and most break their neck on.

The truth of things, what lies behind the curtains or what existence and being hangs on, is not a subjective thing, since subjective things are vulnerable. No people don’t have power over the universe but power to believe and therein lies true power. A better word than believing would be knowing since true wisdom comes from observing and knowing. Then belief is not necessary anymore.

If neglecting respect of our creator then weakness will creep in in some or another way. It always finds a way around the artificial and defeat-able fragile ego.

So don’t depend on others. Don’t be cold and indifferent to the possibility of true love and good human beings but don’t let them or your mind lure you into being fragile by identifying yourself with some role that can be destroyed. That would evidently be destroyed sooner or later: When the trend stops, when a title ends, when egoism makes the wife leave etc.

The truth is that one does not need others to be strong and happy. That is to be accomplished by aiming to do the right things regardless of what others do and without requiring anything from others.

Simply treat others how you wish to be treated. If they don’t respect you or make you feel uncomfortable, tell them or go away. They don’t have the power to control your life and happiness if you don’t let them.

If you lack faith, then when to start building it? What about now, by opening yourself up to new ideas, which you actually have, have you made it to here.

Don’t make the mistake of procrastination, a big weakness of humanity owing to a lack of prioritizing important things, laziness, lack of faith. There is an old saying which explains the importance of acting instead of procrastinating: “If you don’t do a thing now then it is equal to never doing it. “

Also how could one expect always being given the same chances for changing the life situation and life foundation, if one never trusts or follows the new better paths having been opened before one. The one without faith can not expect to be given chances all the time, since he doesn’t believe and actually rejects our supreme power.

Why should such an egoist always be given new opportunities to change for the better. In fact it is usually more likely that the person will decade more and more inside knowing why but never the less refusing its truth, due to vanity, laziness, in short egoism and the addiction to feeling right, clinging to self invented false or superficial knowledge, and therefore refusing truth.

So be strong in the name of God, no others, believe/know and act accordingly. Focus on giving, not on requiring. Have faith and receive what comes your way.

Amen

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Spiritual Prayers Healing Cure

When desperate and everything seems difficult, focus your energy on the only important thing or the few important things.

The most important things are: Have faith, pray, pray for forgiveness as you forgive others, thus letting go of destructive hate.

If you don’t feel like praying just wish humbly and intensely. Though this kind of wishing is not based on solid foundation and respect of the laws of nature, and faith therein, it will have some effect.

However this effect will be limited and short lived since it is very much based on the persons own sense of “luck” and selfesteem, rather than deep sure belief and connectedness with our ultimate source, usually called God.

To believe in God doesn’t mean to be part of any religion, it means one believes in a superior power penetrating everything or governing everything: There are many variations. Neither does it mean we are slaves of coincidental circumstances. We are completely free, though it often doesn’t feel like because one basically doesn’t believe so for different reasons. You can read more about this in Spiritual Healing Cure and Enligthenment Ideas to get Happy, Healthy and Successful

Next take a deep decision of what you want: To be a coincidental victim or to survive / get a strong health. Do you believe yourself that you deserve to recover and get a good health? If not then why do you have this doubt? What do you think you should do to feel worthy of recovery?

Can you forgive yourself? This is probably the biggest obstacle for most since it is debilitating and draining one of vital energy to carry a sense of guilt or the feeling of not being good enough.

Furthermore most kinds of perfectionism don’t belong in a healthy persons life. It usually is tangential to – or equal to neurotic behaviour. The only thing one ought to be perfectionistic about is faith and becoming wise about the basic values of life as specified so very profoundly in old holy scriptures. Surely the wisdom found in those is way superior to any ego based gossip of any contemporary writer as well as those of the last centuries, except for a few, excelling at INTERPRETATING the same old scriptures.

As said being perfectionistic about other things than the above is a waste of energy and impossible to keep up with since the world with all its subcultures and worshipment of the ego, is so multifacetted that one would quickly get lost in things to be perfect at while never becoming satisfied with oneself or others, such as ones children. One should learn to focus on what matters, then put ones highest effort there. Don’t become a neurotic multitasking monster making life sour for others nor yourself.

What is your deepest desire and belief? Then pray for that and allow for the spiritual prayers healing success. Be humble and have faith, peace and acceptance. If there is a meaning in surviving then that will be: What will be will be.

Your faith and deepest convictions about yourself is the most determining factor for your present lifesituation. Yes, there are genetic issues but people with the worst possible genetic dispositions have cured themselves by taking control over their life with faith instead of following the illusion of being victims without any saying.

You inside know what you believe in and decide. Fear at the beginning should serve the purpose of respect of life and its elements: To focus on the important things and leave out not important things. Of importance would be to recover and live according to the important basic values of life, not according to false superficial views, prevailing in society and changing as trends. You need to get back to the meaning of life instead of living life in the hands of others who don’t know anything and don’t care about life really.

With gratitude and faith many problems would never have arisen. It is due to the lack of such, that problems get more and bigger.

Then things end up being impossible to overview and if faith was lacking it gets even more impossible to regain it since the mind had learned another way, the way of proof, not faith.

According to this bad habbit and belief, a person doesn’t act or have faith in a positive change, when there is no evidence and thus argument for believing that things can change.

The problem is that without believing and acting according to that belief, nothing will change or it will get worse.

As you probably have heard, it is important to have some success experiences, that will strengthen faith and make you believe in the reality that you are the master of your life and what you believe you get, despite all roads and pathways are different.

Then at some point you can look back and see all the achievements and realise that if you hadn’t changed your view and thus emotions, which trigger stress if they are just negative, then you would have been in a worse situation.

But for now, should you find yourself inside a dark tunnel, you need to simplify things and focus on only one or two important things and improve that.

Eliminate all other things that cause stress, give yourself peace and remove other responsibilities.

Your life is more important than stupid responsibilities that people use to control each others with. It shouldn’t be called responsibilities but bureaucratic rules to control others with and thus feel artificially powerful.

In a tough situation regarding one’s health, those ridiculous games and mutual control patterns that humans tend to act out, should be highly ignored and seen for what they are: Empty castles in Spain.

True responsibility is to listen to the righteous ones and learn the right and just way. But true responsibility also means to make sure your body and mind functions as intended originally and be creative.

So focus, make your self comfortable and do the few important things that make you feel worthy and dignified.

It is a learning process so don’t fight it as an external threatening thing, but reinforce your inner strength instead and ignore external attemps by people to control you. Or don’t feel you have to give them something, before you are good enough.

No one can require anything. One is free to give as one wishes. Love is like that, it is a voluntary gift not an exchange of services as a mutual beneficial agreement, such as is the common belief.

They can’t if you don’t allow them. You are in control of your life, despite it looks like you are inside a dark tunnel.

So focus, find faith and peace by doing the right things and thinking the right things. Reclaim your bodys power. Reclaim it from yourself by removing the life draining bad life habbits and negative emotional patterns.

The most important step and the foundation is the strong decision to do what it takes and get into a humble and thus flexible mode of thinking that allows for new and better things. Actually the goal and means is to learn to not think but observe, stop judging or wanting to be right to gain illusory power.

I some times witnessed how people doing meditation and thus aiming to not think and have inner peace and acceptance, suddenly solved old problems that they had been unable to solve for many years. The learning to relax and observe suddenly opened the doorway to the solution, which their own ego and bad destructive thinking habits had been blocking.

Turning back to old patterns of illusory power and influence is not the way to learn. That is as said just a return to old illusions that might have given one some superficial sensations of importance and sense in life, but it is much deeper learnings and much more precious values that should be emphasized by now.

Remember

Bless you

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Love is actually the essence of life. It is a goal and a means at the same time. It is the language that we were originally given as humans, who call themselves the superior of species. 

However love is long forgotten and misunderstood and therefore confused with other ways of thinking or expressing oneself, that are not the least related to the original meaning and purpose of “love”. It is also the language of animals.

A person who understands love will also be able to communicate with animals on a very basic level. I have done that myself always and I ask you to respect and love animals as humans. Believe me you will not find the mercy of God if you can’t respect his creatures.

It has become a trend and topic of intellectual conversation more than it is practiced in its original form.

It has become confused with sex to be bargained and traded and thereby obtain something such as prestige, self worth and recognition.

The word and its modern interpretation has become a symbol used for other purposes than what was originally intended.

I thought knowing 11 reasons for not loving might be in your interest, since it is so fundamental and vital to our happiness and health. So here they are …

11 Causes to Lack of Love in the World

1. Not knowing what love is due to lack of love received in childhood or reflected in the parents relationship

2. Not seeing true love anywhere in society. Love is as explained above used with a completely different significance. It’s a modern rather newly invented creation owing to the decay of the focus on moral over especially the last 150 years and closely related to the shift from believing in and loving god to having science and humans at the center of belief.

3. Lack of the teaching of basic sound values including love. Love as well as religious values are not being taught since children and students are only encouraged to the hostile competitive way of thinking in order to earn their share and contribute to the gross domestic product (GDP) and pay taxes.

4. Society is focused on the ego and not on giving thus not reflecting the principles of love

5. Not appreciating love despite of having received plenty of attention. Therefore the basic understanding of the importance of giving love and the ability to sympathize with another is highly lacking.

6. Fighting with emotional and mental problems and lack of self esteem (meaning to feel worth something), and therefore not having the surplus of energy needed to give since the attention is mainly directed towards oneself. It’s a big shame since loving doesn’t cost anything and in fact frees oneself from the imprisonment of ego centered thoughts. Loving is rewarding in a deep way (not egoistic superficial way). It causes a basic happiness due to being one with our true element (one is home so to speak). By loving one would get manifold back and it would actually dissolve many mental illusions and causes of pain, part wise due to feeling a deep purpose in life from engaging in the important act of loving. In fact the act of giving is even more emotionally rewarding to the giver than to the receiver.

7. Having been hurt and due to the modern egoistic way of regarding love, one has decided to hold love back due to innate bitterness and fear of rejection and loss from giving more than receiving. It is the attitude of the coward who doesn’t want to give before he gets, doesn’t want to believe in the truth before someone shows evidence.

   However one will never get true love if not willing to give it. It might seem that the partner loves oneself, and it might have been like that from the start when hope and the illusion of love still prevailed, but it later has turned into a desperate kind of affection, fear based and not based on certainty of the other reciprocating the love. It will only be an illusion and an unhealthy constellation of partnership with one being desperate and clinging to what appears sporadic fragments of love from the other, while the other thrive on his/her pedestal, thinking everything is right and emphasizing his/her own importance and self esteem.

   Regardless of being in a relationship, life will as a consequence of this decision become an eternal escape into substitutes for the needed but ignored love. It might become substituted by cynical cold sex which has not got anything to do with love. It might serve only the purpose of maintaining the illusion of ones importance and success with the other gender, again one of the symbols that are highly sought today including money, power, influence, respect, recognition and material wealth. So in this regard having “success” with the opposite gender though being of only the physical kind, plays the role as for example masculine power and importance if the person is  a man. After all, having a partner is considered a highly prestigious thing to many.

8. Not being with the right, but only staying with the same from fear of being alone or loosing the sense of importance accompanying having a relationship. It is often used as a stepping stone to a better relationship and better life, however often leading to a worse one since the first one wasn’t successful. It was based on egoism, at least by one of the two. It is also a modern phenomenon of not wanting to wait until it is one’s turn: A typical modern being spoiled phenomenon, highly caused by the continuous public focus on the benefits of the individual; the ego centered approach. 

9. Hating the other for not having given one EXACTLY what one had defined as being what one deserved and thus what the other ought to give one. Again the syndrome of being spoiled as opposed to following more moral and dignifying values.

   In case of following good moral values it shouldn’t be done to achieve something or look good in the eyes of others, that is only manipulating for gain. It should be done according to believing in a higher meaning and sense of doing it.

   That is the reason why it isn’t enough to just have a society proud of it’s high moral standards. Alone being proud shows that it’s the ego that is at the center and not the deeper laws of the universe, the essence of life or faith in a higher intelligence and creative power embracing us.

   In fact being proud of ones seemingly self invented moral standards is the argument that many of the apparently quite intelligent people I have met, have used as their argument that believing in god and a higher power is redundant, nonsense and some theories created due to people needing to believe in something. This erroneous putting humans ability to be moral on a pedestal is a mistake that is not realized before chaos and despair sets in, for example during war or natural catastrophes, and the moral order that was previously thought to be self-sustained by the individuals, dissolves and the true hidden law of egoism sets forth. Only at that time the most sensible people will start realizing why faith in a higher order is indispensable.

   Said in short, the reason that there exists something looking like moral in the modern society doesn’t at all owe to the intelligence and superiority of humanity. On the contrary. The good things that only rarely are seen in todays world are in fact remnants from a time when people believed in a higher meaning, respect of the elements and laws of the universe and the love of our maker, giving us life. You could say that people are like cameras sent out by god to observe the essence and matter of everything. I also believe that what doesn’t look good will serve only its purpose before being discarded as poor quality pottery (as the Bible says), or rather as individual programs that tend to deviate from the god given course.

   It is a selection of what God likes. In the beginning of the Bible upon God having created the world it says: “….and God saw that it was good”.

   That was then and many mistakes and a lot of bad pottery ago. The good pottery is still being decided by people themselves, so consciously receiving the gift that life is, using the talents and taking responsibility is the basic road to take. How? By intellectualizing and worshiping humanity? No. By looking for the deeper truth which is not egoistic but pure in its form? Yes. It is not to compare. It is perfect as is. It is.

   When I say “a higher power embracing us”, there are probably some who feel discomfort by that thought since they have inherited the common view that the world is hostile and that we ought to protect ourselves and kill possible threats and this leads to the view of God as some external power that they want to avoid and therefore disapprove of, at least in that form. It could be called an alienation of the world.

   It is funny enough also the hostile view that the western medical science has chosen: To kill things conceived as external threats, as with chemotherapy, instead of seeing the body in a holistic perspective and in connection with the surroundings and aspire for harmony and a balance therein. That principle, ladys and gentlemen, is implicit in the Chinese traditional medicine, including acupuncture that is about strengthening the body and optimizing its natural strength. In my opinion that view on the body and cures is far superior to the roots of western traditional medicine, and it works extremely well. An example is this allergy cure that works amazingly fast and completely cancels all the allergies treated, in contrast to the fact that western medicine has never found any way to cure allergy. It was without doubt the best investment I ever made in my life, and had been so too, had I payed 1 million dollars for it.

   Some confuse love with affection and an inexplicable good and warming feeling. Well that is only part of the effects of love. But it’s far from the whole story. On the contrary love is more of a fair decision built on wisdom that is far superior to modern standards of what is right and wrong, and which are based on egoistic and proud postulates serving some function such as order in the society.

   However those misunderstood interpretations of love also mean that many will lead a miserable life since in the black and white world of control, that a society is based on, there is no space for deeper fairness or moral. Yes a lot of high-sounding words are used to argue the justice of the existing system, just as a sales person does his best to sell his product as being the best in the world. It’s just a scene of acting and he who succeeds in convincing the others, wins prestige and recognition; at least from his fellow coworkers. Here is a happy love quote:

   True love is based on wisdom, not affection which is what misguides most people into having a bad love

   - How to Be Happy Quotes

10. The western colonization (expansion) idea is still inherited on a microscopic level in the single persons aggressive view and constant quest for winning and proving superiority. Living according to such a hostile concept full of hate and seeing people as enemies or possible enemies, while always being suspicious and ready to strike back or attack first, means there is no space for believing in the good in others, sympathizing with others and having compassion and not least love.

    When people seem to sympathize with others, it is often highly doubtful that there is a true and genuine intention behind the seeming goodness and empathy. Rather the ones seeming good are those mastering the skills of deceiving others into believing they are good persons, since that is a popular trend of the current epoch: To be good and helping people from the third world for instance.

    There is nothing wrong in helping but it doesn’t necessarily come from being good, neither is it a sure formula for becoming a good person since that owes to other factors as well.

    I know quite a few examples of people who on the surface seemed almost saints, were helping people in Africa and even traveling there to work, while at the same time mistreating and hurting their own family since they didn’t serve their vanity well. That is called hippocracy.

    Or examples of people who on their job or in public are esteemed and respected people that everybody think highly of, while the hidden truth is that they are psychologically or physically violent and evil to their own family at home. That doesn’t just apply to men but equally to women. Men don’t own the patent on such things. The form of tyranny may just differ in form due to the difference in behavioral patterns pertaining to each sex. The genders having equal rights also means equal levels of responsibility.

    However that being said, doing good deeds surely can change ones view from being that of egoism to an altruistic one, when seeing the results and feeling the sensation of doing something good. It can, if open to this path, facilitate the process of believing in a higher and more noble purpose than just making life comfortable for one self. After all we are social and empathic beings inside.

    The problem is just that the way of expressing these traits is controlled by egoistic needs rather than deep universal values. In fact I believe that many people would wish that the world and humans were more down to earth and more natural, more dignifying but they usually surrender to mainstream behavior since they find it impossible to engage in society’s games while believing in other values. They are right that doing one thing while believing in another causes big mental stress and makes success impossible. So why not act according to one’s fundamental belief, if good and just, regardless of the state of the population on earth?

    The bad situation of the world and all its injustice comes from not knowing love and believing in egoism. It is a big task to change such a heavy inheritance of humanity and get people in general to believe in another and better reality, instead of always just intellectualizing for own gains and do tinkering, but no revolutionizing steps, which would only arise from a shift in thinking: Actually from stopping the automatic thinking processes that humans have allowed to take over their power and thus destiny.

    Despite of the apparent good deeds it is not possible to be truly good and breaking the inherited egoistic life view, life style and behavior, without truly going back to the source and understanding the essence of the truth. The essence of goodness and love can as said not be learned by watching society and believing in society as the only truth and the peak of evolution. However, when there is a genuine underlying intention of objectively understanding the truth, observing the society becomes a useful teacher and often serves as a kind of contrast.

    Rather one ought to be very disciplined in order to not learn the mistakes and corrupted ways of thinking, pertaining to the norms of society. That is why religious groups tend to isolate themselves like foreigners coming to a hostile country. It is necessary to group, for only few people are strong enough to resist society’s pressure to align all people by excerpting political and legal power or locking them out socially.

11. Always wanting something before giving something. That might work as a negotiation strategy or sales tactic but it doesn’t work in love. Love is the opposite of this way of thinking.

12. Due to the paradoxical common belief that one who is cold and feels enough in himself, and needn’t show attention to others, is more interesting to date. Being hard to get, often trickers the attention from the opposite gender.

    But it is not true love but a desperate obsession of wanting to be with the other since it seems difficult. It’s also called the rock star phenomenon due to the typical phenomenon of women going nuts over one man who might only be interesting since so many are desperately desiring that same man due to his popularity, that it is deducted that he MUST be of importance. I hope at least that the rock star, being the center of such attention, is capable of producing good music or our ears will soon be filled with lousy music.

    Often however men who had former prestigious roles or titles are being left by the woman when he seems to be no more important. I don’t say that having an important and prestigious title is wrong. It is what is not done to nurture the relationship and love, which is the problem, apart from the possible situation that the other has solely married one to get close to that importance and only believes in and respects that identity. So when that identity dissapears, meaning the title is lost, the respect and expressions of affection go as well. I talk about affection since true love which is much deeper and wise and not controlled by affection, might never have existed in the relationship.

    To not end up in such situation, it is important to choose and nurture ones relationship wisely.

These were 12 reasons that the world and people refrain from loving truly, that I could think about by doing a quick brainstorming. Feel free to notify me of other causes that you feel are vital but miss in this list. After all this is a globally important issue.

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I mention faith quite a lot in the articles written so far. That is because faith is the cornerstone of every true cure. If people had faith in our creator, a meaning and, on that basis, faith in themselves, then the world would be different. The maximum faith of all those who don’t believe in anything, despite they might have been baptized in some church, is that they believe in themselves, luck or coincidence and nothing more.

By the way, when I use the word faith I don’t refer to the many rabid religious persons who use their religion as means for their egoistic intentions and wanting to be right and judge others and perhaps even to kill others if the proper occasion should arise. I mean a true faith, not an egoistic faith. Those people only use religion as an excuse to let out hate and as a ball gate for egoistic motives. That’s the reason that the concept religion has gotten its bad reputation.

I have experienced quite a few suicides all having one common denominator: Lack of Faith. It might seem to go well for a while. The business seems to go well, yes even for many years. The truth however is that the life situation is founded on sandy ground, not on rock. So if for some reason things start to not go so well, the person gets desperate and fights it and if the defeat seems too big for the ego of that person, he will take to drastic measures such as suicide.

The reason that teenagers in especially some countries choose to end their own live is the same: Lack of faith. Besides they have had fewer years to learn that things are dynamic: Things change and for the better if one believes in it and has patience and acceptance of the present situation. It’s the resistance to the given situation that causes the pain more than the situation itself.

I have personally witnessed people in their forties who cried out the pain pertaining to having suffered since their early childhood due to single events that to them had become traumas, though to other persons it seemed like a walk in the park. These individuals simply had never accepted that event and had linked all kinds of interpretations and implications to it with time.

If a person decides to give attention to one single event which he/she doesn’t accept, then that will cause pain until accepted. However to many the act of accepting is not so simple. That is because the past seems real because it’s part of the egoic illusion of reality. Therefore recalling some simple event as being something unacceptable while impossible to change becomes the source of big suffering since the person can’t seem to escape from the memory.

However no escape is necessary, neither is a heavy consumption of drugs or alcohol. Acceptance of the past and the present situation is the solution as well as recognizing that the present moment is the only thing that exists. The rest are interpreted memories, only kept alive by the brain which is not being used properly at all, despite of its vast posibilities and immense flexibility, which apparently only few people seem to have tapped into. Instead the brain is being misused merely for the purpose of maintaining an illusion of who one is, how important one is and how lousy everybody else is.

It is an egoistic goal that simultaneously sets the limits of ones creativity and focuses only on improving within stupid areas, such as how to fool others into believing that one is important, rather than to aim for higher and more noble objectives. One example that is often reflected on tv is the game of having success with dating. Instead of honesty, big focus is made on appearing to be something, some kind of important identity that the other respects or can benefit from.

The true essence of a person, the true self, the spirit or the soul is of a higher order and untouched by external influences unlike the common belief of today where the brain is in focus as some machine transmitting electric impulses. So the true essence is being highly ignored on a collective level today, since egoism is the used formula for all lifes matters: The ego being an illusion of low intelligence and observance, since the constant defending ones being right, requires one to close the eyes and ignore the truth.

A person of faith would not have to fight so much to be happy and would not despair but by believing in a higher sense would be patient and have faith in the learning process of life and in the benefits of being faithful and loyal to deep values and the laws of the universe. He would be rewarded very quickly, yes already while living. I have observed that all my life.

It’s of course a greyish scale of how intense the resistance to believing in a higher meaning and intelligence is. However the result is black and white. Hence it will not help to say the famous words:” There might be more between heaven and earth than we know”. It’s the same as saying: “Until someone proves that there is a meaning I won’t lift a finger to do anything with a deeper sense.”

So why are there so many atheists or disbelievers? I can understand why there exist diverse opinions as to the nature of the almighty intelligence. A good intention and genuine desire to know what it’s all about is better than refusing to know anything. As long as there is some strong foundation of certainty in the belief to build on.

I have come up with 11 reasons to not having faith in a divine presence which I have encountered again and again when talking with people about it. Actually I also found that in a society that has strong atheistic tendencies, people might speak as with one tongue but if one looks closer and keeps asking deeper questions it will often show that despite of claiming to be atheists there is some doubt and often a lack of having asked themselves basic questions. It’s more of a trend and fear of being locked outside by the other atheists who might be more fundamental in their view.

11 Causes to Lack of Faith

1. Lack of doing an effort to getting to know our creator and a meaning perhaps due to being busy with other superficial things or due to pure laziness or lack of motivation. I would describe it as closing the eyes to the truth instead of observing.

2. Clinging to the outspread belief that science and the superiority of humans must exclude a god, gods or allnature power penetrating and connecting everything including ourselves.

3. Group pressure. Fear of being excluded and unliked by the few people with whom they have some kind of social contact.

4. Society and the medias only basing their views on scientific proof and the unwritten commercial objectives of the same.

5. Sticking to generalizing anti religious arguments such as:

1. “Look at all the trouble in the world and evilness. If there was a god he/she would certainly not have allowed that”.

2. “My mother was perfect and did everything right all these years but anyway she suddenly got sick and died. It’s not fair. That’s when I lost my belief.”

   If one looks closer one will realize that the person using such statements has a controlling way of looking at the concept of God, meaning the person wants to control what “God” is comprised of and how things should be in their world. They never have used the objective approach.

• Having grown up in a strongly religious environment and simultaneously having had bad experiences and perhaps traumas, causing one to vomit in disgust if just hearing the word God.

• Waiting for something external to convince one before taking any action on that matter.

• Waiting for scientific proof which will of course never come. It is impossible to use the limited tool science and its self defined methods, in order to “prove” something penetrating everything. First of all the scientific limited way of thinking is far from geared to such a holistic matter. Secondly due to old traditions of science (read pride) there is an outspread resistance to theism under here monotheism, deism, pantheism or polytheism.

• Not having achieved what one defined as success in ones life. We could talk about a fixation on certain superficial goals including the possession of symbols of power and importance: Cars, real estate, prestige, power and apparent popularity not to mention titles.

  The disappointment from failing according to self defined criterias of success causes the ego centered person to reject any postulates of a higher order and meaning, since he automatically concludes that if such a divinity existed, he would automatically inherit some throne or something like that … This is typical of the egoistic way of thinking.

  The ego is in fact an illusion created by thoughts and erroneous deducting, a figment. It is highly caused by – and related to the constitution of society and general human way of thinking, inherited in our upbringing and nurtured by humanity for eons. It is highly hostile and defensive in nature.

• Having achieved big success in life. They might conclude: “Why believe in anything that interferes with my life and takes credit for it? I have created the success myself, noone else.”

• Lack of a father figure or brainwashing from childhood by parents and others using self flattering thoughts about being parents and “creators” of their children. It’s the same people who often are not even capable of simple things such as to explain their children what to do and what not to do and thus serving their children to the russian roulette of society and “coincidence”.

  It’s simply hippocracy and lack of responsibility though they might be copying their own parents. Often the same people who never took that responsibility are very likely accusing God or turning their back on our creator in case things don’t turn out well. If they had taken serious responsibility instead of using their role as parents for self heightening purposes and to look good in the eyes of others, they would have created another future and one of faith and thus better choices and less trouble. They and not least their children would have had a safer and happier life.

The thing is that refraining from believing in anything is actually an active choice which will exclude one from harvesting the fruits of the good power from which the world was created.

The thing is that the egoistic self worshiping approach which is so widespread in the world today, is an obstacle to knowing the deeper truth since it’s always about oneself and what fits into that small illusion which one has created.

One might believe that one knows what’s worth knowing since that must be equal to knowing the world well and copying the public views presented through and generalized by the medias who took an oath to be objective. If what is served as news is the definition of objectivity then I think there is a need for inventing another word with honesty, truth and altruism as implicit values.

For if there is one thing that humans in todays world is not capable of, it is to be objective. First of all they mostly have had no contact with the wisdom of understanding what that implies and why being objective and honest matters, since those are usually just considered to be heavy moral ideas, obstacles to being competitive.

Secondly they are too busy with their own egoistic motives.

But of course there are some exceptions. I talk about the general lines of society. A few rather objective people won’t tip the iceberg of which 90 % is under the surface, with the iceberg being the general tendency. Also there is a market and need for news which was already established and which media would undermine their own territory by suddenly following new and basic values? No, the medias live from readers and viewers, not from serving the truth. Also the medias are being used for propaganda and political warfare.

Furthermore I believe that the thing about medias is much like the case with politics and other bureaucratic instances:

To all bureaucratic  institutions of power applies that you only get in if you get into it and carry on what was started. In reality this means that there are hardly ever any radical changes taking place. It is brainwashing on a high level or regimentation with the result being a society build on ineffective tinkering. This lack of flexibility and thus results owes to the prevailing egoistic way of thinking implying a lack of deep intelligence. – How to Be Happy Quotes

I don’t preach or make mission for any religious group here. My opinions are my own.

Since faith is the cornerstone of all powerful movement and creation I advice anybody to open their heart to a higher truth and meaning.

It’s in fact the closing of the heart and the egoistic way of living that cause all the problems.

It’s not religions or the wanting to know God that is the root to the misery of the world, despite kings and people wanting power frequently have used religion as an instrument and argument for their right to conquer territory in the world.

Look at the crown of kings. It is a crucifix used as a marketing tool by the kings to convince people of their divine right to rule over them. The message was then conveyed in the marketing slogan: “For God, King and Fatherland”.

“How to Be Happy Quotes”

Here are some of my most important personal findings – my “How to Be Happy Quotes”:

The truth and nature of our creator and the universe is to be sought and known unconditionally – How to Be Happy Quotes

Another of my findings is:

True faith in our creator causes true faith in oneself meaning true creative power vs ego centered hollow power – How to Be Happy Quotes

Another of the many insights, revealed to me throughout the years, explains why using bad events as a reason to not believe is complete and utter nonsense:

The fact that we are totally free calls for responsibility and makes it impossible to blame our higher connecting power of our own faults – How to Be Happy Quotes

Though many people seem to have understood that there are problems in the world that we ought to solve, it is often just apparent.

Acting as a saint doesn’t change the inbred egoism of humanity; it only disguises it for egoistic purposes. To be good means to understand and believe in love, not in self-aggrandizement. – How to Be Happy Quotes

Now what purpose does faith serve?

Faith serves the purpose of leading humans back to the right path that they forgot long ago when getting lost due to ego centered thought processes running wild – How to Be Happy Quotes

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