People generally believe that everything is solved by will power and when a problem persists such as addiction or lack of success the cause is again: Lack of will power. Let me explain why that belief is a fatal mistake.

Throughout the last 1½ century, or since people went to the cities to work in fabrics, the inclusion of values belief and faith in peoples life has been decreasing. Simultaneously there has been an increasing emphasis on the commonly approved hypotecy that everything is solved with action, action and action.

Nothing could be more wrong since action without a goal based on deep values is a vulnerable goal which makes the owner vulnerable.

This is the reason society is in despair and starving for another life based on true values; a meaningful existence instead of this indifferent view that nothing matters and one might as well just get as much for one self when now we are here anyway. People just don’t realize that that is what they are really starving for.

So every time this sense of not being satisfied comes up in one, it leads to a perfectionistic thought such as: ” Well I have to do more, yes one day I will make it if I just am strong and work harder. “

The thing is that taking this perfectionistic approach, so typical of people wanting to achieve goals in business leads to one or more of the following things:

• Having achieved the goal but still wanting more in order to be truly happy; a never ending quest.

• Not having reached the goal and being bitter about that

• Being stressed from working a lot

• Being stressed from never living up to unlimited requirements of oneself and a deep hope to be number one in about every discipline on earth, if only there was more time (which the busy business man always complain about that there isn’t – “I am so busy, I am so busy, I am so busy”. Ya da ya da ya da. It all springs from a too high emphasis on the ego and achievements and a desperate incredibly big need for attention and acceptance, COMING FROM OTHER BEWILDERED PEOPLE who also are  blowing around with the wind of coincidence, hoping to get their piece of the cake.

• One will never be able to rest if success as defined nowadays is the criteria.

• If having too big problems there is nothing to fall back on since its win or loose. No higher teaching to carry one through life. Just a coincidental collection of viewpoints meant to guide one through life which usually never works or only in specific situations but under new circumstances not. That is the reason people without the deeper cover and belief in meaning, fall very deep unless they are so trained in that discipline or have such a good network that they know how to pick themselves up. Those who manage have faith that they will always manage. Its however an ego based faith. Others start to have deep doubt about all their life foundation since before they believed they were incarnated to have success but then suddenly they got blown of their feet by other circumstances, such as the financial crisis making many people have to start from scratch or better again, find a new belief and way to regard life and meaning.

To relax, enjoy life and still have success, the following things are important

• it is important to be honest about ones beliefs and base ones goal on them. Do you really want that and want to give what it takes.

• What are your priorities

• What are your talents

• Do you deeply believe you are good enough to achieve it and capable of it?

• What is your plan B when things don’t seem to go as you wished for. Do you stop and think if there is a better way? Do you continue but just working harder? It is important to know where the effort should be put. Lets call it smart working.

If one doesn’t have faith in ones ability then making goals doesn’t make sense. One will never accomplish them.

The biggest problem is the lack of faith and the sure belief that things will go well if just one follows some basic values. One doesn’t need to be a control freak but simply act according to faith that by doing things instead of loosing faith and doing wrong things, one will arrive at the goal sooner or later.

Usually what happens, and why so many fail, despite of having had a good idea is:

• They believe in coincidence

• They suddenly doubt whether they will be lucky and have success. They place the responsibility outside instead of inside.

• They don’t act according to what I would call the clean path but sin by loosing faith and doing things as a kind of distractor from the true purpose and intention. Its a bad habit of doing something else when loosing faith that one will succeed. It can be over eating, over indulging in sex or sex with the wrong person and not based on love or a long term goal, gambling, drinking, taking drugs and all sorts of escapism.

  Actually overwork is another common escapistic behavior: It springs from lack of faith, lack of feeling happy and trying to solve this with control and working as hard as possible, nurturing a neurotic fear of loosing if one stops for too long time. It’s equal to a view of only being happy once some goal is achieved. It’s a very uncertain way to achieve goals since the mentality is fragile and not based on deeper values, which is the right way to recharge the batteries and get creative and strong. Well, that is the reason the person tries to control everything but forgets to live with grace and faith, even forgets to appreciate his/her family.

  Look how business people rush to leadership courses to learn how to believe in themselves, yet another tool to feed the egos illusory self indulgence, while forgetting the simplicity of living a harmonic life of grace and purity which is true power and doesn’t hurt others.

When a person looses faith in a thing he automatically looks for alternatives to fill in that empty space. If doing destructive things and things that are conceived a waste of time, it will contribute to an even higher feeling of sinning and not being worthy. This leads to more escapistic behavior and so on.

Lack of faith leads to escapism and bad habits that in turn generate an even higher lack of faith.

- How to Be Happy Quotes

It sort of gets an escape away from the thing in which one has lost belief, because it hurts to think about so its better just to abandon completely. Often projects and dreams of business and success get dropped like that.

The solution is to nurture faith by not stressing one to much, not expecting the achievements of certain high goals to be served in an instant in order to be satisfactory.

Instead being happy by having faith, accepting the present situation as is and knowing intuitively that when acting according to faith and doing the right things and prioritizing actions accordingly, then inevitably one will succeed

It’s better to celebrate smaller steps and keep going, than to work like a crazy and suddenly give up due to loosing faith. It is also good to have the goal simplified and clear in mind when starting, especially if the project is complex.

It is important to put ones will power in the right direction, such as not focusing too much on details before the big lines have been drawn.

If tending to be perfectionistic then this is even more vital for having success.

I speak about faith a lot. I believe faith in a deeper meaning leads to clean, loyal and honorful behavior which again reinforces faith and justifies faith in the achievements of ones goals.

It is highly important to keep ones path clean and act from honoring deep wisdom and meaningful values, respecting a higher power that also sees to a higher justice, often beyond our comprehension.

Some people with bad intention succeed in their own eyes and seem unstoppable. They are strongly convinced about their own views and acting according to them. Therefore they apparently succeed but when they realize that their values were wrong or regardless of realizing that, then it will have consequences. Ones consciousness serves a fine purpose. One better listen to it, if based on true understanding, before it’s too late and the whole of it crashes.

It all boils down to humbleness and the insight, that it is better thinking one doesn’t know anything, contrary to the egoistic approach. Only in this humble faithful way one is open to the deeper truth and will arive at correct conclusions in about anything. The speed of doing so depends on the experience and the details of life, but the basic belief and humble readiness to know and learn and thus undermine egoistic weaknesses, this is the foundation for ever learning things of value and become truly strong and successful.

If one in some way manages to be successful without following and basing one’s course on deep wisdom, it might be due to others supporting and praising one, because they are basically ignorant and therefore lead the wrong people to the top.

The old saying that equal children play better seems to be true but is it a good thing? I doubt that. I think the original intention would be that everybody could talk with everybody and learn from those who have important not ego based things to say.

However due to the splitting up into nationalities, races, classes etc. which is a consequense of the egoism and wanting to protect one self, it seems better to fight to keep what one has obtained.

However according to asian philosophy, vedic philosophy, one should give to get, one should circulate to get back some thing, therefore money is called “currency” which origins from the latin word correre which means to run.

Never the less the modern belief if to retain, fight and keep for oneself and the closest ones according to ones taste of personality, not wisdom, nor fair values.

Equal minds are attracted by each others: Egoists by egoists and evil people by evil people.

- How to Be Happy Quotes

One might feel superior and perhaps high from being able to fool the “ignorant” naive people and get success on that basis. But I believe such egoistic approach has a high price, a price that is higher than the godless wish to believe. I think we could call it seeming to win but loosing every bit that is worth something.

Appearing to be good is not enough

Often people who think they want to do good, lack deep values and tend to continue applying their overly perfectionistic view on the matter of moral and doing the right.

However since their values are defined by themselves in an egoistic manner and from egoistic goals, not goals honoring higher values, principles and wisdom, they will also become stressed from this new “trend ” that they are pursuing.

It will end as just another of their many kicks of self esteem raising actions. They might believe they have succeeded with their aggressive winning approach, but in the end they will just become sick and unsatisfied never the less. They have made a wrong choice and priority. God and deep wisdom should come first.

It doesn’t work wanting to pretend to do good and use it for feeling good and look good to others. Ones self invented basic ‘values’ have to be cleaned out along with the egoistic approach. If replaced by humbleness and thereby a deep intention to learn and improve, especially the most important essential teachings of life, then success will be inevitable while not being a weak point.

Failures will not be regarded as failures but as stepping stones. They will serve for learning some thing. The mind will be depleted from perfectionism and stubborn vanity. It will be replaced by true deep strength, patience and endurance.

Good day

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